21 DAY FAST || WHERE I BELONG

Welcome Home.

It's a phrase that's said a lot around here at Relate Church. It's a comforting thought to know that you are welcome, and that you can find home here. 

So then, what is home? Is home a building? Is it your address? Is it where you live with your family? The dictionary has many definitions for the word, and my favourite would have to be "any place of residence or refuge".

The word HOME could be a scary thought for some people. Maybe you didn't have the greatest home life. Perhaps when you think of home you think of anger, fights, yelling, abuse.

To me home is more than a four letter word. Home is where I belong. Where I can truly be who I am and not worry about anyone judging me for it. Home is the place where I can come in with the toughest situations and know someone has my back. Home is the place where I can come to be celebrated and encourage, and it's the place for me to encourage others.

Growing up, home was always my happy place. I grew up with a single mom who worked so hard to make life happen. I remember every home we lived in form a young age, although they were all different, they did all have one common thread. Home was who I was with, home was safe, home was the best. My mom and I moved to Surrey from the Okanogan when I was really young, and most of her family (pretty much all actually) are still there. With our family being so far away, it sometimes felt lonely; but we were all able to find family in other places. We created family at church. The church we were going to at the time had so many amazing families that sort of adopted us into their families and suddenly, it didn't feel so lonely.

Church became a place where I belong, a place where I could do what I wanted. Where I was loved, where I was welcome. Church became Home. Church became FAMILY. Relate Church is my home. I am protective of my home and even more so of my family.

Psalms 68:6 says, "God sets the lonely in families".

How true was this for our life. We were placed in families, and not just one specific family, but THE family. God's family. I love that no matter where we are, or how lonely we feel, we ALWAYS belong.

TAELOR ELVERUM

21 DAY FAST || HOMECOMING

It's early morning as I type, dark and freezing outside. I happen to be awake and almost through my first cup of coffee, sitting by the fire while my husband and kids sleep upstairs. I can hear someone snoring, actually. It's cozy. We are all together under one roof and that's just the way I like it. Soon we'll all be moving and off to work or school, and I'll be counting the hours until we're gathered again. Home is my favourite, and family has my heart.

I think the same way about church, the family of God, and wonder sometimes how God feels about His children gathered. It's got to bring him such joy as his sons and daughters come home. We sense it when we're together, a glimpse of heaven. And I feel His longing for those who are far from Him... Those who don't yet know, those who are questioning or hurt or disconnected.

I've been a little bit obsessed with Isaiah 60 recently. It tells of a huge homecoming, a family gathering that God has in the works. Isaiah paints the most gorgeous picture and as I read it, I SEE it. 

Isaiah 60:1-5

Arise, shine, for your light has come,

    and the glory of the Lord rises upon you.

See, darkness covers the earth

    and thick darkness is over the peoples,

but the Lord rises upon you

    and his glory appears over you.

Nations will come to your light,

    and kings to the brightness of your dawn.

“Lift up your eyes and look about you:

    All assemble and come to you;

your sons come from afar,

    and your daughters are carried on the hip.

Then you will look and be radiant,

    your heart will throb and swell with joy;

the wealth on the seas will be brought to you,

    to you the riches of the nations will come.

 As the world is increasingly darker, the glory of our Jesus is bright. He is hard to ignore, the light of the world that leads us home. We know hope, we have a future, and we belong. While fear seems to blanket the earth, it isn't our reality. We're building a home and a gathering place for the family that isn't here yet... but they're so loved already. And what a homecoming God has planned! 

ANGELA DOELL

Executive Pastor

21 DAY FAST || WOULDN'T BE HERE WITHOUT YOU

1 John 4:7

"Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God.  Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God."

I’ve learned that love is not just about the feel good moments.  Love will cause you to stretch, take you places you never knew you were capable of going, and push you through doors you thought you had no business going through, only to realise that the door was meant for you to open.  It’ll cause you to grow, push you out of your comfort zone,; make you reach for dreams you’ve placed on the shelf a long time ago because you let yourself believe that some dreams are just not meant to be.

When I first started coming to Relate, I would often hear people comment that their first impression of me was that I was a quiet, confident, young man.  I never had the courage, or the humility, to tell them how wrong they were.  Well…  They’re mostly correct about the quiet part.  You see, when I first walked through the doors of Relate Church, I was a broken mess.  I was so good at putting on the façade of a confident, young man because I’ve had over a decade of practice putting it on every morning; hiding the cracks with a thin veneer called false self-confidence.  Can any of you relate?

Growing up, it was like I lived three different selves.  My first self was the one I would show my family when I was at home.  I was the obedient child, straight “A” student who never got into trouble.  I was the child who would fix his bed in the morning because mom said it’s what I’m supposed to do.  And so I did.

My second self was the one I would show my friends.  The sarcastic, callous boy who was too tough to get his feelings hurt by recklessly thrown words.  The boy who can take a punch to the stomach and not even flinch.  The boy who can silence a room with a death stare.  Yes… I was that boy.

My third self is what I refer to as my genuine self.  It was the ME that I wasn’t comfortable sharing with others.  It was the ME that only appeared behind closed doors, when no one else was around.  The ME who loves to draw, read, write, and day dream.  The ME that I kept hidden because I had to be perfect (which I’m not) and tough (True story, I bawl my eyes out every time I watch the beginning of Up) and immune to failure (which I often did).  Can anyone here relate?

Looking back at the past decade, I can see how much I’ve grown; how far I’ve come from that confused kid who wanted to please everyone.  When we look back at our lives, we can often pinpoint key figures who have played roles in shaping us into the person we are today.  Although I can write a whole novel about all the people who have touched and made a difference in my life, I would like to focus on two particular people.

Ricardo Duran, and Ben Liu. 

The years that I attended their small group, I learned the following:

Ricardo taught me persistence and consistency.  He also taught me that a leader didn’t have to be perfect.  He taught me that it was okay to have problems, and be open with it and share with people; that being vulnerable wasn’t a sign of weakness, but of strength.  Over the years of him being my leader, I witnessed him share his struggles, and I watched him walk through it with God.

Ben taught me it’s okay to be loud.  He was the king of dad jokes, even before he became a dad. He also taught me what worship is.  I remember coming to small group one evening after a bad day at work.  I remember being upset, angry, and not knowing where or who to turn to.  I remember closing my eyes during praise and worship; it was something I’ve never done before.  I remember getting lost in the songs and suddenly the words, “Lead me to the cross” weren’t just words anymore.  They carried weight.  When I opened my eyes, both my arms were up in the air; I don’t remember ever lifting them up.  I remember feeling the presence of the Holy Spirit for the very first time that evening, and it changed me.

Today I find myself leading a small group.  This small group is their legacy.  Over the years of them being my leaders, not only did I regard them as friends, but as spiritual brothers.  Ben, Ricardo, I’ve never expressed this in person, and I apologize for that, but if you’re reading this, I hope that you both know how much you’ve influenced my life.  You took a broken kid who kept everything inside, and you taught him courage. 

When I hear the words “love one another”, I imagine a picture of people lifting each other up.  I can honestly say that I wouldn't be where I am today if it wasn't for my church family.  I’m a first generation Christian, and I pray that I get to influence other people’s lives the way that so many of you at Relate have influenced mine.  I have so many stories I want to share, but I don’t want this to get TOO long.  If you’re ever at Relate Church, come drop by at Guest Services!  I’d be more than happy to share my stories with you.

BRYAN CALARA

21 DAY FAST || DECLARE HIS LOVE

For many years, my husband and I made a daily "habit" of spending time together at some point during the day declaring God's Word over us and our family. There were a number of scriptures that we read together. Psalm 103 was one of them.

I love this Psalm because David begins by exhorting us to praise God, and encourages us not to forget all the benefits that God has given us. He goes on to remind us of God's rich love and mercy.

Verse 17 says:

"The mercy and loving kindness of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting... His righteousness to our children's children."

How amazing is our God? He loved us before the world began and He will keep on loving us. He sees the way we are and yet chooses to love us unconditionally. That is a hard concept for us to comprehend - the kind of love that is like no other.

His love does not extend just to us, but to our children - and their children; to all the future generations that are to come. His love brings future and it brings hope. We can trust God to look after our family. He loves each one of them so much more that we can.

Perhaps you are feeling like you've messed up too much for God to look at you, never mind love you. Or possibly you feel that your children or other family members have strayed so far from God that there is no hope for them and nothing will ever change. Maybe today you can begin by simply declaring God's love for you and His love for your family. 

"God loves me. His love for me is unconditional. He love me! God thank you for loving my kids; for loving my family; thank you that you never have stopped loving them and you never will."

As we embrace His love, His everlasting unconditional love, we will find that our lives will change. As we dwell and meditate on how much He loves our family (whatever that "family" may look like) we will begin to look at things differently. Hope will start to rise and our faith will be built up.

In our world today, families are evolving and changing all the time. There are births and deaths, marriages, separation and divorce. Life happens and we may find ourselves in a place that we never thought we would be. Our family doesn't look like everyone else's and we just can't see the future generation. Know today that our God is a God who redeems, restores, and heals your brokenness.

This journey of life hasn't always been easy. My "family" looks different than what I thought it would look like at this time in my life. My husband is in his happy place - with Jesus. Things are just not what I thought they would be. One thing I do know: God's love has kept me. His love is a promise that is sure, and I can trust Him not only with my life but with my family. He has a future and hope for each one of us. He will not reject us, but will continually pour out HIs love and mercy, from everlasting to everlasting.

CHERYL SEXSMITH

21 DAY FAST || BE THE CHURCH

Relationships. So incredibly wonderful, yet so incredibly tough.

I mean, what else could bring you the most inexpressible joy and yet the most heartbreaking pain? I can remember seasons of pain in my life that felt so unbearable, it seemed like shutting down was the only choice that I had. Looking back on these experiences, I've come to learn that you can't pick and choose what things to feel. When you close yourself off to one emotion, you'll eventually start to close yourself off to all of them. Even with the best intentions, shutting down feelings of pain will not only affect your relationships with people, but most importantly your relationship with God.

It’s easy to look at our lives and focus what's wrong or lacking. We’ve all had disappointments and regrets when it comes to relationships. Too often we can get caught up thinking about our past experiences and wondering what our lives would look like had made better choices, but we can’t stay in that place. If we want to experience all that God has for us, we must learn from our past, engage in the present, and set our eyes on the future. We need to learn how to open ourselves up enough to feel the pain so that we free ourselves to experience the fullness of His joy.

I believe wholeheartedly in God. I believe in the Church- the body of Christ. And I also believe that we have an enemy trying to divide what God sacrificed His Son to unify. God created us in relationship, for relationship, and as The Church of Jesus, I believe that we can do way more together than we can apart. Our call as a church is togetherness; it’s family, and that's not always an easy task. One of the biggest benefits and challenges of church is people; yet even with our differences, we can't afford to stop fighting for each other and fighting for unity.

Colossians 3:14-16 says:

And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

The best way I know how to work through pain is thankfulness. I’m not talking about the polite "thank you" people say when receiving their Starbucks drink or that feeling you get when someone opens the door, but a genuine thankfulness that changes our perspective and focuses our attention away from ourselves and onto Jesus. When we remember the ultimate price that was paid so that we might live in freedom, things begin to change.

Even though doing life together can be complicated at times, let’s continue to be the church that God has called us to be. Let us be known by our love for one another and for having the peace of Jesus that carries us through the most dire of situations. Let us be known as a people that knows the word of God and lives it out, encouraging one another and holding each other up. A church that loves and worships God, and most of all, a church that is thankful for each other and for Jesus.

MIA DAYAO

Worship Director

21 DAY FAST || BIBLE VS. FACEBOOK

Deuteronomy 6:6-9 MSG

“Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of you homes and on your city gates."

It has taken me years to get to this point, but I have come to accept the reality that I may have a slight deficiency pertaining to my ability to maintain my attention on a given person, place or thing for what would be generally considered an appropriate amount of time. In other words, the “span" of my attention may not be quite what would be considered normal. In other words, I’m hungry now.

I can remember being told by many of my teachers that I struggled to pay attention in class and focus on my assignments. In elementary school I was forced to sit in the front row because they said it would help me stay focused. In my defence, school was boring.

At home, I had chores to do. One of my chores was to take out the garbage bin to the street curb on garbage day. I can still hear my dad saying “Do you need to write it on your forehead so you won’t forget to take out the garbage?” I had no idea how biblically inspired that statement was. Props pops!

While it may seem like a strange idea to “tie God’s word on to your hands and forehead as a reminder”, I wonder at times, how much I would benefit from taking the advice in Deuteronomy 6 literally. I get the impression that Moses felt quite strongly about the people of Israel prioritizing God’s word and instruction. He wanted the people to commit themselves to not only hearing the word, but to commit themselves to ensure that they would never forget it.

I believe that God wants us to not just hear the word, but to consume the word to get it inside of us. “Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and get them inside your children.” I can’t think of a more relevant piece of advise for Christians today. We live in a consumer world where our attention and affection is being pushed and pulled in every direction. Social Media and TV, readily available 24/7 offer plenty of opportunities for us to consume the world's opinion of who we are and who we should be.

The problem is that what we consume becomes what we assume. (See what I did there?)

Put it this way, if you hear something enough times and talk about it long enough, you’ll start believing that it’s true. I think this is why Moses urged the people to take Gods commandments and “Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them form the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night.” He wanted them to not just hear the promises of God, but to ASSUME they would happen.

I wonder what it is that you have been consuming lately? What have you been assuming to be true in your life? I wonder what it would take to limit the distractions enough to focus on God’s word? I wonder what steps you would be willing to take to remind yourself what it says?

I don’t know about you but I know I could benefit from consuming more of THE book and less of Facebook. And I while I don’t like to admit it, writing it on my forehead might not be such a bad idea… it is biblical after all.

Much love church!

THEO BLOCK

21 DAY FAST || UNEXPECTED FAMILY

When I think of the word 'comfort’, a list of material things pops into my head. It ranges from indulging in a hamburger and crispy fries, to being at the beach where I can relax and enjoy down time in the sun. Whatever it may be, it’s not the same comfort that is found through the support that we receive from loved ones.

I can think of various times in my life that I’ve gone through difficult circumstances. An example would be when I got my first job after collage. It was such a great opportunity, I got to apply what I had just learned in school and gain more experience in that field. At first, it was great but over time due to some changes with management, the atmosphere became toxic. Eventually it got so bad that I knew it was time to move on. The only thing was I didn't have the sufficient experience required to move to something else, and I was carrying a financial burden. With student loan debt and other living expenses I felt so overwhelmed; I really didn’t know how to move forward. I am so thankful for those who were aware and stepped in to help me and support me through that time.

At one point or another, we all face those circumstances that seem so difficult and dark, it leaves you wondering how in the world you're ever going to get passed it. In the midst of those circumstances, it wouldn’t matter how much we indulge in material things that may bring comfort, the feeling of being overwhelmed and wanting to quit would still be there. 

This is where family comes in. How encouraging it is having family and loved ones there that can encourage you during those times. I’m so glad that we were not created to do life alone. I believe that God’s intention for a family unit is help each other out by supporting and building each other up. It's that support and encouragement that helps us move forward. Not only is it good to be built up, but it is an honour to be able to help and support those who you get to do life with.

Paul writes about it in 1 Thessalonians 5:11:

11 Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing. (NKJV)

For some of us, that may be hard to find in our biological families and for that reason I am thankful for our church family. I believe God’s answer to family is the church. Church is more than just a building, it's a community of God’s family where we can gather, encourage, comfort, support and build one another up.

REMBER BOLANOS

Production | Media |I.T

21 DAY FAST || YOU ARE LOVED

Family. 

Families come in all shapes and sizes. Some at the very mention of the word “family” are instantly overwhelmed with an assortment of feelings. Feelings of discomfort, sadness, bitterness, anger, resentment, hurt and loneliness flood your thoughts and your hearts. Perhaps you have run away from home like the lost son. Or maybe you have been abandoned, shunned, or excluded from your family because you did not meet or live up to expectations that were set. Maybe members of your family have been lost to sickness or addiction. Or perhaps your relationships within your family have merely been forgotten, or bound with fear, brokenness, lies and deceit. The desire to belong to a family that is not plagued by these unattractive characteristics can cripple ones hopes, dreams and desires. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  

With that said, not all of us have known family to be these things. However, I believe that we can no longer let those individualities define or steal away the joys that come from belonging to a family. 

I am so grateful that we were each chosen to be a part of an inclusive family.  In Jeremiah 1:5 the Lord says, “Before I made you in your mother’s womb, I chose you. Before you were born, I set you apart for a special work. I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” God chose you! He chose me! He chose us to be to be a part of, to belong to, to be included in, to be protected by, provided for, loved by and pursued by His unconditional, no strings attached, love. 

But love requires sacrifice. Family requires sacrifice. It’s not in God’s nature to withhold from us. He gave everything for us. He gave His one and only son so that you and I could belong to and be a part of His family. 

John 1:12-13 says, “But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, to those who believe in His name: who were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of man, but of God.”

We are children of the most high God, born again into His family. We His children are not perfect, but He is. 

May you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are loved, valued and belong. May you be filled with pure joy that comes from the deepest part of your being as you accept your place in His family. I don’t know a better place to be supported, encouraged, challenged, loved and surrounded by family than in His family-in His Church. Church is Home. Home is where everyone belongs and where everyone is welcome. 

If you do not have a place to call home, a place to belong, a place to grow and flourish within the family of God we would love for you join us as we gather, worship and do life together. Click here for service times and details!

In the wise words of Lilo and Stitch: “Ohana means family. Family means no one gets left behind or forgotten.”  

KIERSHA HYNNINEN

Children's Coordinator

21 DAY FAST || INVESTED

Psalm 127:1-4

Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain.  It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep.  Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward.  Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth.

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business to live a more leisurely life with his wife and enjoy his extended family. He would miss the paycheck each week, but he wanted to retire. They could get by. The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go & asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but over time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end a dedicated career. When the carpenter finished his work, his employer came to inspect the house. Then he handed the front-door key to the carpenter and said, “This is your house… my gift to you.” The carpenter was shocked! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently.

Whether we are building structures with bricks, mortar and steel or building our character, our family, our community or church with truth and love, we cannot succeed without the help of the Lord.  Jesus said “without me you can do nothing” (John 15:5). Psalm 127 is a part of who we are as a church.  We are in the midst of a building construction but we are also in the midst of building lives.  The question is how invested is our heart?

If you read the book of Nehemiah you find a great example of an invested heart.  He was informed that Jerusalem was without walls and he resolved to restore them even with great opposition. At the same time, he reformed the community in conformity with the Law of Moses. His heart was fully invested in what God had called him to build. 

When God called Marv and I into full time ministry, we both knew we were called to build His Kingdom. It was God who opened the door and we were able to step into His plan. I think one of the biggest challenges in building anything is staying fully invested in God and what He has called you to especially when opposition arises.  2016 was a very challenging year for my family and for so many others in our church. Looking back I had to ask myself, in the midst of difficulty did we still have an invested heart?  Did we continue building our marriages?  Were we fully invested in our family, our kids, grandkids and great grand kids?  Did we show up each weekend to serve and love on others?  Did we continue investing in the next generation?  If our heart is a reflection of who we are did we ever stop being who God called us to be?  

We are a Church with an Invested Heart. 2017 will be a miraculous year!

JACQUIE MCGEE

Connections Pastor

21 DAY FAST || THREE STEPS TO UNITY

One of my all-time favourite things is to hear my children laugh. Not just a chuckle, but an all out uncontrollable belly laugh. I think it’s best actually when it’s totally unprovoked and I have nothing to do with it. Angela has asked, while planning a family time, what I want to do and I have said “I just want to hear my kids laugh.” To me this speaks that all is well right now, we are together, and yes - we are unified. 

How much more delight do you think our heavenly father has when he hears us laughing together as we strive toward a common goal?

Psalm 133:1-3 (MSG)

"How wonderful, how beautiful,

    when brothers and sisters get along!

It’s like costly anointing oil

    flowing down head and beard,

Flowing down Aaron’s beard,

    flowing down the collar of his priestly robes.

It’s like the dew on Mount Hermon

    flowing down the slopes of Zion.

Yes, that’s where God commands the blessing,

    ordains eternal life."

To me this talks about a powerful, valuable moment in time that is anointed and blessed beyond measure and the only thing we need to do is to get along. This is actually taking the time to look into the life of the one next to you on this journey, so much so that you can speak into their situation, share what they are going through and ultimately laugh together.

In a time when the world is filled with so much bitterness and strife, God needs us more than ever to be getting along, walking in unity, and laughing in the face of adversity. This is when we become an unstoppable force reaching a lost and dying world.

Remember these three steps to unity:

One Enemy - Our fight is not amongst ourselves but the rulers of the darkness of this world.

One Heart - When they prayed and were filled with the spirit they were of one heart and mind.

One Purpose - Pray that we are united in thought and purpose.

ROD DOELL

Production Director

21 DAY FAST || I BELONG

"Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of His household" Ephesians 2:19 NIV

When I began to think on this scripture it took me way back to a memory from when I was in elementary school. Although I don’t recall exactly what grade it was (maybe grade 1 or ), I do remember quite vividly what took place. 

I was required to stay after school with some of the other students to finish the math work that wasn’t completed during class time. I can remember sitting and staring at the math equations not knowing what to do.  It was all too much for me and I just didn’t understand. The conclusion I came to was this: if I didn’t understand, then I didn’t belong. The solution was to go where I knew I belonged.  So I went to the coatroom, put on my boots and left for home without saying a word to anyone. 

Belonging is what everyone one wants. It was even evident in this letter that Paul wrote to the Ephesians and in particular the scripture I started with. The Ephesians were a group of believers looking to belong, but were still young in their faith and understanding. Not only that but they also saw themselves as outsiders as they were Gentiles and not Jews. Paul wanted them to know that as believers they were “no longer foreigners or strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people”.  Their belonging was not dependent on how much they knew or where they were from, but rather knowing that they were loved and that there was a place for them in “the family”. 

You see it’s those who have a strong sense of being loved that have the courage to be themselves. To be imperfect. God wants us all to understand that. He wants us all to know just how much we're loved and accepted no matter what our past may be or how much we know. We are all members of His household as we receive the love given to us. 

I don’t recall what the immediate outcome was when I decided to leave school that day but I do know that even at a very early age I was aware of where I was loved and accepted. I knew that it was not based on my performance but rather on me knowing I was loved and was part of the family. I was so loved that my parents sent me back to school to learn and now one of the things I am passionate about is exactly what I was afraid of failing in…numbers. I’m so glad that the unconditional love my parents gave me also gave me permission to fail while continuing to grow. This is exactly what Paul was doing with the Ephesians in this letter. Letting them know God loved them unconditionally and then pointing them toward growth and fulfillment.

MARV MCGEE

Operations Pastor 

21 DAY FAST || LOVE, SWEET LOVE

When I was asked to write a devotional on John 13:34-35 the first thing that popped into my head was the 1965 song What the world needs now is love sweet love.  That statement is so true but it’s simply not enough to throw around fluffy, feel good love.  We need a more substantial love.  

I am a diehard romantic and I’m always up for the cheesy Hallmark movie that has people falling in love at the end or a family is brought back together after circumstances pulled them apart.  I LOVE that kind of love but again it’s not enough.

The Love that Jesus is talking about in this passage is beyond that.  It’s the God kind of love spoken about in 1 Corinthians 13:4-6. It says: "4 Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, 5 never haughty or selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy. It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong. 6 It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out."

I heard just yesterday, Pastor TD Jakes say … “I hope you love me even when you don’t like me. It’s easy to love me when you like me but much harder when you don’t like me”.  Love is a decision to care for someone regardless of how you feel about them and what they have done to you or against you.  What you do to and for others speak volumes more then what you say to others.  Your words can be beautiful but if the attitude behind those words is poor, you very well know that the attitude cancels out your words and makes it worse.  You would have been better off just keeping your mouth silent.  Your actions and attitude towards others are what speak and preach the loudest to those who don’t know Jesus personally or have drifted away from Him.   

Every person has a story and I know for me it is very easy to overlook a person and never see who they are and where they have come from based on the time, place and circumstance I find myself in at the time. I always try to treat others with kindness and respect but I often shuffle past people, busy to get to my next task or appointment without ever really seeing them or trying to finding a way to engage them. Make them feel valued and heard or even to meet their most basic need.  

We are given opportunities every day to show God’s love just like Jesus talks about so clearly in these passages. But it’s a decision to see those opportunities.  It’s a decision to want to meet the needs of others and show God’s heart of love. Your kindness to others is the ultimate model to the world about how good God is.  I want people to see the goodness of God working in and through me long before they ever see me.  I want to be a billboard and display of the kind of God we serve. The God who would give up everything to save us and that didn’t stop when he died on the cross. But His overwhelming love carries on and continues even now and it will forever. I want to love people like God loves us ("We love each other because he loved us first." 1 John 4:19 – NLT). 

So as this year starts I am personally setting a purpose to slow down and have those moments. Those God appointed, God ordained every day moments and encounters. I pray that they will speak volumes to others about the good, loving and gracious God we serve.  

ASHLEY MOHR

Creative Pastor

21 DAY FAST || YOU BEFORE ME

Life can be full of challenges and obstacles. They may come in droves or in few; obvious or concealed in the bustle of our everyday lives.  Hebrews 10:24-25 speaks of a challenge with so much truth that the words penetrate my heart.

“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.  And let us not neglect our meeting together…but encourage one another…”  Hebrews 10:24-25 NLT

This is different from the kind of challenge I face daily like refraining from hitting the snooze button more than seven times or navigating the snowy roads while suffocating in three layers of winter coats – who else can relate?  This challenge put to us is one only God can mastermind.  The command here is not to love one another and do good deeds; rather, it is to consider how to motivate one another to love and to do good works.  

Let me break it down:

To consider – one must give some thought

To give some thought – one must take focus off oneself (hello!)

To take your focus off yourself – one must think of others

What a challenge to think of others more than ourselves, and to motivate them to lift others up.  We all need this push to grow and I’m thankful to be a part of a family that pushes me. The family beyond the one I was born into, my [Relate] Church family - where I feel safe, welcome, share similar values, and have the opportunity to learn from others.  Hebrews tells us that continually “meeting together” gives us the opportunity to fulfill God's call to take our eyes off ourselves and motivate one another to love and do good works through encouragement.  

When you miss church, you are missed.

Lisa Wagner

Lisa works at Relate Church as the Receptionist. She is a vital part of the community at Relate. 

21 DAY FAST || LIVE BOLD

Psalm 145 has been one of my favourite verses for a long time as it demonstrates the power and strength of relationships. It's how we set up the future generations for a win. I am eternally grateful for the spiritual inheritance that was given to me through the godly example of my parents and grandparents as they played the key role in teaching me to have a living and vital faith.

1 I will lift my praise above everything to You, my God and King!
    I will continually bless Your name forever and always.
2 My praise will never cease—
    I will praise You every day;
    I will lift up Your name forever.
3 The Eternal is great and deserves endless praise;
    His greatness knows no limit, recognizes no boundary.
    No one can measure or comprehend His magnificence.

4 One generation after another will celebrate Your great works;
    they will pass on the story of Your powerful acts to their children.
Psalm 145:1-4 (Voice)

Other spiritual mothers and fathers in faith have led the way for me as well. One of them was Dr. Lester Sumrall. I will never forget the last sermon I heard him preach at our church before he went to Heaven in 1996. In the most fatherly manner, he spoke with tears in his eyes of a grave concern he had about passing on a ‘spiritual sword’ to the generations to come. He said, ‘In the arena of science & technology, and every other area of knowledge and learning, knowledge has been passed on from generation to generation, only in the area of passing the spiritual sword or baton, have we failed. It seems every generation must begin again. This is not right! Success without a successor is a failure.’

His words have never left me – they have left a deep imprint on my heart and mind.

We are to live our faith boldly and leave a legacy and a lineage of faith. I can’t help but think of how my actions today will impact the generations to come. How would I live and do things differently if I was keenly aware of the lasting impact of my choices? As a grandmother, I now know that when I was raising my three daughters I was effectually raising my grandchildren as well.

“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.’ Deut. 30:19

You may not have come from a very healthy home environment and perhaps feel disadvantaged in your ability to pass on a strong and Godly legacy to others. I believe that this is one of the most important aspects of being planted in a thriving church community. God knew everyone needed family – it is a place where we are set up to learn, to grow and to wrestle through our challenges together so that we set up to lead a Godly and successful life.  This requires planting your heart and life in the healthy soil of God’s family and investing with faith and commitment, trusting in God’s love and grace because He is a good, good Father. While here on earth you will never find a perfect family, but we can take great joy in knowing our Father is the One who is perfect. 

“Those who are planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God. They shall still bear fruit in old age; they shall be fresh and flourishing.’ Ps 92:13-14 NKJV

Helen Burns

Senior Pastor

21 DAY FAST || LIVING IN HARMONY

“May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus.  Then all of you can join together with one voice, giving praise and glory to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.” - Romans 15: 5-7

For many of us, family is where we first learn the value and necessity of living in harmony. Yet, it is so often hard to do.  Family life and church life alike can come with conflict and discomfort.  It is only when we choose to have patience with one another’s faults and encourage one another, that we foster harmony.  Living in harmony only happens intentionally.

I remember sharing a room with my sister until we were 16 and 17.  We love each other now, and we loved each other sharing that small room, but oh how different we were.  I hoarded paper, cardboard and trinkets for crafts which I stuffed into bags and hung on my desk chair, bed post, door knob, wherever I could. My sister on the other hand, organized her shelves and dresser with a tidy display of her favourite things.  Needless to say, it wasn’t easy for her to live with the messy hoarder that I once was.  That is just to illustrate one of our many differences.  Fights ensued, and for a lot of our pre-teen and teenage years, we said more awful than kind things to each other. 

It took us until adulthood to learn to celebrate each other’s lives.  The annoying stuff hasn’t gone away (like my tendency to take forever to respond to her text messages and e-mails).  We are still so different but now, we speak positively towards each other.  Now, we have room to know each other and an opportunity to encourage one another through life. Life is better with my sister.

So why does harmony matter? 

As a church family, we follow Jesus, and reflect Him in what we do.  We don’t choose the family we are born into any more than we choose who may walk into church with us. When operate in harmony with whoever it may be, we reflect Jesus well. What better way to love people than to share the same graceful love that Jesus gave to us.

Alison Bolanos

Alison works on staff at Relate Church and is a vital part of the church community along side her husband Rember.

21 DAY FAST || FAMILY

2017 is here and I’m expecting great things.

My One Word for this year is FAMILY.

We live in an exciting, fast-changing, rollercoaster-like culture.  People are searching for security, identity, personal worth and value.  Due to social media, the internet and globalization we appear to be more connected than ever and yet we feel more disconnected than ever. Family is the answer.

Proverbs 13:22 has long been one of my favourite scriptures, “A good man leaves and inheritance to his children’s children.”  It speaks of the connection between children and grandparents.  I love this scripture because I loved my granddad.  He was a good man and he believed in me.  I always felt like he saw something great in me.

When I look at what I’m doing today and realize that I did not get here on my own, I think of this scripture. I think of FAMILY. I’m so thankful for those that invested in my life and I’m loving the opportunity to give back.  This is true not only of our biological families but of God’s Family – the Church.

Everyone Needs Family. I believe that Church is the answer.  Ephesians 2:19 in the Voice says, “And so you are no longer called outcasts and wanderers but citizens with God’s people, members of God’s holy family, and residents of His household.”

When we are born again, we are born supernaturally into God’s very own family and He places us in His household called Church.  Its there where we find identity, security, nurturing, purpose, opportunity… where we find our people, our tribe… where we realize our life’s bigger than us, we are part of something bigger together… where we find HOME. That’s why our welcome at Relate Church  is always ‘Welcome Home.’

Our lives are bigger than we think. None of us got to where we are alone and everything we are and do, we pass on generationally.  If we could see the unending ripples of influence our lives create we would count what we do and how we do it with greater value.

One of the reasons I love Proverbs 13:22 so much is the big picture of purpose it supplied to my life. It caused me to evaluate my life from the perspective of generations not just the moment, the year or the season.  It supplied the hope to ‘get back up again’ – because its not about me, its about the generations.  I like that God states, “A GOOD man leaves an inheritance”, not a ‘perfect’ man or even a ‘great’ man.  I believe with God’s help I can live a good life that can be a blessing for generations. 

I believe through family we all can be a blessing for generations.

John Burns
Senior Pastor

YOU CAN'T TELL ME WHAT TO DO

Naturally, I like to do my own thing.

I’m often tempted to go against the grain because at times I have a desire for rebellion. For someone who wants to do the opposite of what their told, the following verse is challenging to say the least: 

Proverbs 15:3-4 says “if you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise. If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding.” 

As a joke, when people ask me to do something, I obnoxiously tell them “you can’t tell me what to do!” and proceed to stick my tongue out like a 5-year-old child (although I’ve met many five-year-olds better behaved than I). But when their face reads unimpressed, I slink away and do exactly what they’ve asked. As I turn and walk I away, embarrassment takes over and I think “how dare you silently disapprove of my behavior because, like, it was a joke, ok?”

And there it is. The little piece of rebellion that speaks to me and justifies my wrong actions. The itty bitty piece that refuses to concede defeat. That prideful, ego-tripping piece that licks its wounds in statements heard either under the breath or in vengeful rants to a sympathetic, but enabling third-party. 

The kind of rebellion I’m speaking about isn’t necessarily wild and tragic. I’m not some runaway adolescent tired of the oppression of my footloose no dancing nonsense town. I’m simply a Christian who must always remember that my goal is to be more like Jesus.

Jesus called us to be child-like in our faith, to be in awe of our creator. Not to be childish and obstinate, believing ourselves to be entitled and justified in the kind of actions that do not reflect God. 

Perfection cannot be found here on earth, much less in people. However, when we open ourselves to listen and obey, God moulds and changes us in a way that others will see. When we are obedient in our actions and our words, it does not go unnoticed. It is in that discipline that we can best reach those around us. We are a living, breathing message of the goodness of God. 

The song “Like Incense” has a line that always catches me off guard. It says “please still my anxious urge toward rebellion”. It sticks out to me because it relates to the nature of my human spirit.

So here’s what I’m learning, my friends. God is always guiding our steps. When you listen to Him, you’ll know if your behavior is less than worthy of the person He has called you to be. Do not be discouraged by the call of discipline, but be glad that you are now growing in wisdom and understanding. Watch your words, watch your actions. Approach everyone with love and grace. Do not be clouded by your pride and anger.  Our goal is to be more like Jesus.

And if anything, just don’t stick out your tongue and tell God that he can’t tell you what to do. Just listen.    

Eliza Biason

WAITING FOR THE BEAT TO DROP

I prefer music with a good, solid beat. Give me a little old school hip hop and I'll quickly be bopping my head like the awkward 40-something white mom that I am. I can't help it. My kids are wise to me and know that they can change my mood for the better easily by playing some Tupac in the car. 

There are other types of music that make me itchy. Jazz, for instance. I can definitely appreciate it and the genius that goes into creating it, but its wildness stresses me out. I can't think properly while listening to it. Apparently I lean toward predictability in my music choices... My brain wants to know what beat comes next. 

I honestly prefer predictability in every area of life. Safe. Secure. Simple. I enjoy comfort like most of us do. And yet life with the Spirit is anything but safe or comfortable... This path I'm on is not the one I expected. And I'm on a journey of embracing it with both arms. 

I would make small, timid decisions if it weren't for the strength God offers. I'd avoid situations and people I can't control. My life would be bite-sized if it were up to me alone. Scripture makes it pretty clear that we are called to more. The Spirit invites us to wade away from steady and calm and to surrender. The good life isn't predictable, but the unforced rhythms of grace are better than safety. We weren't made for comfort but for transformation. 

Take care of yourself. Check your soul, guard your heart and slow down when you need to. Say no when it's the right answer. But let's not make comfort or predictability the goal. We have a chance to grow in the waiting - the "spread a little thin" - the unpolished - the painful - the uncomfortable seasons. 

When we can't see what's ahead, waiting for the beat to drop, we can remind ourselves that God definitely knows what's next. He's the composer orchestrating the future. He isn't predictable but He's really good, kind, and trustworthy. He's better than safe. 

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.

Proverbs 3:5

Angela Doell

Executive Pastor

I'M HAVING MORE FUN THAN YOU

Church. My favourite place. 

It's not a building but rather the people you get to do life with that makes church so impactful. 

I grew up in church, and to be honest there was rarely a weekend where I didn't want to go. I got to see my church friends, and church family. Growing up, church was the place where I knew I was safe. Where I had people I could talk to when struggles were real and a place where I could learn how to put my gifts into practice. 

I still have the same feeling when I go to church today. The best part about church is the people I get to do it with. 

“Those who are planted in the house of the LORD shall flourish in the courts of our God.” Psalms 92:13 NKJV

I met my husband in church, and we are now growing our little family planted in church. The term church rat can be used to describe our little girl, and I LOVE it! She has an amazing group of young people that love her, watch her, protect her, and teach her about Jesus. My husband and I serve in many capacities in church and we couldn't do that without that community around us. 

My husband shared a short message a few months ago at church and he said something that has stuck with me to this day. He said, "if you're not serving on a team, I'm having more fun that you." (You can watch the service here if you're interested). Serving on team has always been what I have done, but in the last couple years it's become something I LOVE doing! 

I fully believe if you plant yourself in the house of God and serve with all you have, your life will be richly blessed. I believe that you'll be blessed with MORE of everything! As you give of your time with God, you'll find you have MORE time. As you give of your finances, God blesses you with MORE. 

To say I'm protective of my church and the time I get to spend there would be an understatement. I love the people I get to do life with and the lessons I am learning from them. I am so thankful for the friendships and family relationships that come with belonging somewhere. 

Taelor Elverum is a big part of church life at Relate. She volunteers on the Worship Team as well as various other areas. Her husband Alex and two beautiful children are also a big part of church life at Relate.

BUILDING STRONG FOUNDATIONS

Well, we are six months into the completion phase of our expansion project here at Relate Church and I am reminded daily and am so thankful for the church family that is “all in” for the journey. My favourite words to hear on the weekends are, “It is going so fast!” This is so enjoyable to me as the excitement builds throughout the congregation.

I remember that same excitement as a little boy when the church I was a part of was going through an expansion project. Even as a child I loved the anticipation of getting to church and seeing the changes every week. It was an amazing adventure for a kid with big eyes and a heart full of dreams. Now fast forward to today and the adventure continues. I haven’t heard one person say “Are we there yet?” It has only been an enjoyable experience. 

The first six months have mostly been spent on the core of the structure and foundation. With the steel rising out of the ground in these last few weeks, we are starting to see the structure go vertical. Just as in building a strong marriage, family, business or whatever endeavour you head into, the time needs to be spent on that strong foundation. Without it, your investment is almost guaranteed to wither away and not last. Like Jesus says in Luke 6:46-49 “…These words I speak to you are not mere additions to your life, homeowner improvements to your standard of living. They are foundation words, words to build a life on.”

Over the next few months, the structure will be closing up with the finishing work being focused on the inside. This leads me to a question I present to you, “What are you looking forward to most in the new space?”

Whatever you are expecting or dreaming of, always know that you and the ones you do life with are always welcome at Relate Church.

Rod Doell

Production Director